Leaders Don’t Duck

We’ve all been there—faced with a critical moment of truth when we might offer some much-needed feedback (constructive or corrective) to an employee, but we let the moment go. Maybe it’s because we don’t feel the setting is appropriate—perhaps we’re in a meeting or with a patient and family members. Maybe we think it’s just an isolated instance, and it’s not really a “big deal.” Maybe we just aren’t ready to face a potential confrontation at that particular moment in time.

Whatever the reason, we duck the issue. But, guess what? Great leaders don’t duck! They don’t overlook these moments of truth that represent opportunities to clearly convey expectations and support the organization’s mission, vision, and values in a meaningful way.  

Certainly there are times when an immediate comment may not be appropriate, but even in group settings there is opportunity for course correction, coaching, and modeling desired behaviors. For instance: Suppose you’re in a meeting, and one of your staff members makes an inappropriate comment about a colleague or a patient. It’s a comment that is not supportive of the culture you are trying to create, a comment that was certainly heard and attended to by other employees in the room.

What are you going to do—duck? No! This is an opportunity to provide feedback in a non-confrontational but meaningful way. You might say something, “You know, when we make comments like that, even when we’re among colleagues, it undermines the culture of respect that we’re trying to create.”  

Or, in another setting, an employee makes a negative or even derogatory remark about “administration”—the “they” that is often the target of criticism in many organizations. In a situation like this, you might say, “You know, that sounds very blaming; it sounds like you have a legitimate concern, but let’s rephrase that concern so it is more aligned with our culture of collaboration.”  

We don’t need, or want, to humiliate employees, but we do want to provide them—and others around them—with an indication of what we will, and will not, tolerate. If we don’t, if we “duck,” we send a very loud message to others. A message that is not likely to be the kind of message we want to send. Often what is holding us back in situations like this are the “leadership tapes” that have become programmed in our minds over time. We need to recognize and, sometimes, change or revise those leadership tapes so that we are not ducking during those critical moments where we have an opportunity to make an important impact.  

We all have these tapes. I’ve caught myself putting off crucial conversations because I’ve been playing the tape “Choose your battles,” or even an excuse-type tape like “Well, this isn’t her usual self—she doesn’t normally act this way,” or “This is something I think I should address in private; I’ll do that as soon as I can,” but, inevitably, the right time doesn’t happen.  

Allowing employees to make negative statements, or demonstrate undesirable behaviors, can have significant consequences on the culture and the patient experience. For instance, consider the impact of comments made by employees in front of patients or family members about how “busy” or “understaffed” they are. What message does that send? Whether the unit is actually understaffed or not doesn’t matter—the patient and family are only hearing the perceptions of staff, and, invariably, they believe those perceptions. How do you think these beliefs will play out as they provide feedback through surveys likely to impact your HCAHPS scores? Perception, unfortunately, is reality.  

I’ve conducted focus groups where family members will tell me, “The staff is working very short all the time,” and I’ll say, “Really? How do you know that?” And, they’ll say, “Well, they told us.” This is a prime example of an opportunity to reinforce standards for service excellence.  

If you don’t want employees’ casual, but ultimately harmful, comments to have a negative impact on patient perceptions and the patient experience, you can’t duck! You need to establish clear expectations, hold staff accountable to those expectations, and provide feedback—both constructive and corrective—clearly.  

Great leaders don’t duck! If you duck, and you allow these kinds of comments to continue; you’re not fostering the culture that you need to foster. It’s important to pay attention to the tapes you play inside your head and make sure they are the ones that will help further your goals. The nice thing is that you can re-write your tapes to be part of your conscious leadership plan.  

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